I often get orgasm questions. Most people have one of the following 2 questions. The first is How to reach orgasm? The second one usually comes from people that practice tantra: Should I avoid a peak orgasm? So let’s talk a bit about that. First what do I consider to be a peak orgasm? A peak orgasm is an orgasm that follows Master and Johnson’s build up:
The sensation is carried by the pudendal nerve from the genitals to the brain. This is the kind of orgasm people usually refer to when they are talking about orgasm. It’s the clitoral or vaginal orgasm with a lot of tension in the muscles during the buildup and the orgasm. And it’s also the most common orgasm in people with male genitalia, where there usually is an ejaculation and orgasm at the same time. That muscle tension can be one of the reasons why your orgasm doesn’t fully blossom, doesn’t come at all or why it comes much faster than you would like. If there already is a lot of tension and contraction in your muscles when you are in a neutral state – before arousal is happening – your muscles are constantly overworked and will not function in a healthy way when arousal builds. When your muscles are very tight the tissue will not let the nerve-signals of pleasure through easily. The tissue has become more dense, more numb, the fascia hardens. A protection layer is created in the body and nutrients will not be able to reach the cells and toxins have a hard time leaving the tissue. The tissue isn’t in the supple, healthy state anymore that would most support feeling sensations of arousal. High tension and hardened fascia can also cause pain as the hardened tissue will press against pain receptors. In my experience releasing the fascia will solve most pain issues. Another issue people with high tension in the pelvis can experience is premature ejaculation. This can happen in both male and female genitals. When there is a lot of tension in the pelvis and the tissue is very tight, there is not much space for the fluids that build up during arousal and they will force their way out as soon as possible. Your ejaculation and/ or orgasm might just explode before you want it to. You can learn many orgasmic techniques, but if your bodily tissue is not in the condition to carry the pleasure signals to your brain, if the neural pathways are not open, those techniques will not result in the great orgasmic feelings you might be longing for. That’s why I think it’s important to bring awareness to how to keep our bodies and genitals in a healthy state. We open the pathways to pleasure by preparing the body to feel sensation and we create the space in the tissue to hold the buildup of arousal in our pelvis, so your experience of pleasure can expand and build up more and more. We create a healthy, safe, loving base in our bodies, a place that feels like home to us. So what about the second question: Should I avoid a peak orgasm? I’ll talk more about that in part 2 of this Blog series. So stay tuned.
Pictures of the Pudendal Nerve innervation:
(Female) By OpenStax College - Anatomy & Physiology, Connexions Web site. http://cnx.org/content/col11496/1.6/, Jun 19, 2013., CC BY 3.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=30148525 (Male) Häggström, Mikael (2014). "Medical gallery of Mikael Häggström 2014". WikiJournal of Medicine 1 (2). DOI:10.15347/wjm/2014.008. ISSN 2002-4436. Public Domain.orBy Mikael Häggström, used with permission.Cleanup by User:CFCF [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons